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What is Domestic Violence

Posted by helpinghandsagainstdv. on January 25, 2018 at 12:05 AM Comments comments (1)


What is Domestic Violence?

A pattern of abusive and threatening actions used to dominate power and control over an intimate dating partner or spouse. An abusive partner uses many types of abuse. Domestic violence includes the use of physical,sexual violence, threats and intimidation, stalking, emotional,psychological, financial control and spiritual abuse. The power and control wheel is used to help identify a pattern of abuse.



Types of abuse:

* Physical- Abuse or the threat of abuse of the victim, children, or pets

* Economic- Rigidly controlling finances/withholding money

* Mental-Sabotaging a partner's job by making them miss work, calling them constantly at work, etc.

* Verbal- Use insults that humiliate a partner

* Emotional- Telling partner who he/she can or can't hang out with 

* Sexual- Any unwanted sexual activity without consent, including rape, incest, sexual harassment, and molestation. Consent is the presence of a clear yes (not the absence of a no)


The harsh reality is that every year, 1,510,455 women and 834,732 men are victims of physical violence by an intimate partner. On average more than three women a day are murdered by their husbands or boyfriends in the United States.

• Nearly one in four women in the United States reports experiencing violence by a current or former spouse or boyfriend at some point in his/her life.

Violence and Teens

• 1 in 4 adolescents reports verbal, physical, emotional, or sexual abuse each year.

Violence and Children

• 15.5 million children in the United States live in families in which partner violence occurred at least once in the past year, and seven million children live in families in which severe partner violence occurred.

• In a single day in 2008, 16,458 children were living in a domestic violence shelter or transitional housing facility. Another 6,430 children sought services at a non-residential progra

• Technology has become a quick and easy way for stalkers to monitor and harass their victims. More than one in four stalking victims reports that some form of cyberstalking was used against them, such as email (83 percent of all cyberstalking victims) or instant messaging (35 percent). Electronic monitoring of some kind is used to stalk one in 13 victims.

Ask your self this, Are you in an Abusive Relationship?

If your partner has done even one of these things to you, please seek guidance immediately. Understanding the impact of these incidents is crucial in protecting yourself and your children.

Emotional Abuse

• Ridiculed or insulted your religion, race, heritage, class or women as a group

• Withheld approval, appreciation or affection as punishment

• Continually criticized you, called you names, shouted at you, or demeaned you by telling you you are unable to manage without male help

• Insulted or drove away your family and friends

• Refused to socialize with you

• Threatened to hurt your family, or threatened to kidnap the children

• Controlled all the money, kept you from working, or prevented you from making decisions

• Manipulated you with lies/contradictions or controlled you with his jealousy/possessiveness

• Intercepted your mail or telephone calls, or took away car keys or money

• Punished/deprived the children when he was angry at you, or abused pets to hurt you

• Regularly threatened to leave or told you to leave

• Blamed you for the violence

Physical Abuse

• Pushed, shoved, slapped, bit, kicked, choked, punched or tripped you

• Held you to keep you from leaving or tied you down

• Thrown objects at you

• Locked you out of the house

• Abandoned you in dangerous places

• Refused you help when you were sick, injured or pregnant

• Subjected you to reckless driving

• Threatened or hurt you with a weapon

• Twisted or pulled your arm

• Told anti-women jokes, made demeaning remarks about women, or treated women as sex objects

• Become jealously angry, assuming you would have sex with any available man

• Criticized you sexually


Are you in a cycle of domestic violence ? 

Help is available to stop the cycle.  If you are in a emergency situation or are in need of a shelter reach out  to the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE)

Advocacy and education is available in Helping Hands Resource. Please don't suffer in silence. Awareness can save a life.



https://ncadv.org/statistics

http://www.thehotline.org/is-this-abuse/abuse-defined

What is trauma

Posted by helpinghandsagainstdv. on January 24, 2018 at 2:25 AM Comments comments (0)

What is trauma ( toxic stress) A physical, emotional, and spiritual reaction due to an interpretation of a life event that overwhelms the capacity to cope. Having hidden pain manifest in our behavior.


Hurt people, hurt people.Those who are victims of such things live, with recurring memories of what they witnessed.It infects their sleep, destroys their relationships and their capacity to work, torments their emotions, shatters their faith and mutilates hope.


The wounds of trauma are not visible; their effects are.These wounds of the soul and spirit torment more than one in seven people around the world. When these things happened in our childhood ( Aces) it can hinder us as adults. In order to help someone else, I must first understand my own trauma. Have you experienced trauma?


Understanding Trauma (Toxic stress) 

Whos is a trauma survivor? A trauma survivor is a person that has been through a traumatic event as a child or adult.   

Survivors experience physical reaction to trauma called triggers. Our body memories trigger the brain into (survival mode) a place where you fight, freeze or run away. Certain smells, pictures, sounds, people, places and life events can be a trigger. 


Events that can cause a trauma reaction to the brain. Divorce• Death in family• New birth• Transitions (moving)• Domestic Violence• Natural disaster• Accident• War.


This information is not meant to treat or diagnose. It is simply euducation and research to help you understand some of the reactions of trauma.

If you are in need of support or education we would love to help you. Send us an email [email protected] 




http://www.apa.org/topics/trauma/

https://acestoohigh.com/got-your-ace-score/

https://www.ptsd.va.gov/public/problems/anger-and-trauma.asp

Systems need to change

Posted by helpinghandsagainstdv. on July 16, 2014 at 8:05 PM Comments comments (3)
Today left me numb, coming in contact with a family that has been totally ignored by police and social services. We had to step in and make our own report! Thank God now they are listening, but it's not ok how they have been ignored! As an organization I see how we must educate systems to truly help victims. We must be trauma informed to know how to help them. If you are unaware of trauma you will damage the family more. Please get informed

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